In the face of a high aging population, decline in the rates of marriage and childbirth, and a post-growth economy, sociality is downsizing away from the family to more single lifestyles in Japan. Affecting both the making of life and the care given to the dead, family gravesites are getting abandoned – as Japanese increasingly age without anyone else to depend upon, new commercial and public initiatives are arising to tend to the country’s "family-less dead". The talk examines what is a surge in "ending activity" since the early 2000s of seeking alternatives to the family grave and patrilineal kin to be caregivers of the dead. Making one’s preparations ahead of time or for the relocation of ancestral graves, necro-planning brings death into the present and anticipates, by aiming to avoid, socially disjunctive ends. What implications does this have for the "crisis" of sociality in Japan today, and what does it portend for a post-familial future as mapped by new ways of caring for the dead?